If you are going to tell a story, make it a good one.

Things happen to you, and that’s a fact…What you say about the facts is up to you. Try this: Pick something that you consider a major event in your life that has an emotion attached to it. Tell a story about that major event in the third person. Then, tell a version of the same events as a whining person. Then, with you as the hero of the story. Notice anything different? Did the emotion change?

How we talk about the events to others and for sure to ourselves, is telling the story. You can be the hero, the victim…or it can be your Hallmark Channel moment. It’s up to you. And your emotions follow depending on how you speak about it.